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Housing Assistance for Single Mothers
There is housing assistance for single mothers available from the government and from other sources. Now first off WHAT TYPE of housing assistance are you looking for.
Are you looking for Mortgage Assistance so you can make your payments? Are you looking for Rent Assistance to help pay your rent? Are have you lost your house (or in danger of losing your house) and you need some emergency shelter quickly while you figure your stuff out?
There ARE, depending on how hard you look, all of this type of assistance out there, BUT, it may not be easy to find. We’ll give you the information on how to go about finding it, but we can’t make any guarantees. Be prepared to pick up the phone start calling around. In some cases, you may even need to actually visit a location to see what help is available.
IF YOU ARE NOT WILLING TO PUT SOME REAL WORK INTO THIS, YOU WON’T GET HOUSING HELP.
There’s a lot of needy people out there ALL looking for help. So don’t think you can just sit around surfing the web and with the click of your mouse, have assistance delivered to your door step. Any information given here is going to also involve YOU actually getting out there to verify that. You may even need to actually ASK people in person. So be prepared.
This article focuses on housing assistance and is applicable to single mothers (who often fall at the lower end of the income scale) BUT the information here applies just as well to any individual / household looking for housing assistance, such as senior citizens, disabled persons, low income households, single dads, etc. In fact, every single one of these programs is general in nature and does NOT SPECIFICALLY TARGET WOMEN or SINGLE MOMS.
If you are a homeowner and find it difficult making payments or cannot make payments (and face the threat of foreclosure), please read our highly detailed Mortgage Assistance Guide: Help Me Pay My Mortgage
Since that article exhaustively covers this topic, we won’t go into details on this page. Suffice to say there are a number of federal, state, local and no-profit organizations that do offer assistance with your mortgage, should you find it difficult to make payments or are unable to make payments.
The solutions offered range from refining loan with new lender, loan modification, cash grants to temporary pay your mortgage, loan mediation, principal reduction and free housing council.
Look at our full Rent Assistance Guide for complete details on finding assistance making rent payments. There are federal, state, and local level aid programs you can seek out IF YOU CANNOT PAY YOUR RENT.
Some states do offer rent assistance programs. These programs will help with some housing expenses, security deposits, and even with some of your rent. Go to our State Assistance page to see an overview of some of the Rent Assistance offered. Also contact your Community Action Agency, which is a government-backed agency and should have information about any rent assistance programs in your area.
There are some programs offered by the federal government that do offer rent assistance.
Part of the HUD (Housing and Urban Development) rental assistance program. This is a federal program and the largest assistance source for housing in the country. This program is aimed at low income households and provides a variety of services including rent assistance in the form of vouchers for specific private, low income housing. Some funds may also be given as partial rent payment, depending on a household’s income.
The way it works is The US Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) gives funds to public housing agencies (PHAs) who administer a voucher program offering housing choice vouchers. Notably, single mothers are able to choose a single-family home, a townhouse, or an apartment, as long as the unit meets the program’s requirements, so that they are not limited to living in subsidized housing projects.
The housing choice vouchers provide rent assistance. The single mother sources a dwelling place that is healthy and safe, according to the PHA’s standards, where the owner is willing to participate in the program. The PHA directly pays the landlord the subsidized portion of the rent, and the single mom pays the difference. The program is open to both US citizens and eligible non-citizens. Further information on:
- how to apply,
- the amount of the rent subsidy,
- relocation options,
- the roles of the parties involved in the program, and
- other pertinent matters, is available at
Note that there are a number of different rental assistance programs offered by HUD:
- Section 8 Housing Vouchers (discussed above)
- Section 202 Housing Vouchers for Senior Citizens
- Section 811 Housing Vouchers for Disabled
Another federal program that offers rental assistance to families that live in RURAL areas. The assistance can take the form of vouchers or directly. The way it usually works is a grant is given out which pays the difference between what the tenant can afford to pay out of their income and the cost of the rent. Applicants typically have to be very low income to no income to get accepted into the program.
To apply for this you’ll either need to directly contact the USDA Rural Development office in your area.
There’s assistance in the form of grant money made available to women (and families — not just women) via the Transitional Housing Assistance Program. Basically, this targets families / women of face homelessness OR who suffer from domestic abuse and need to move to a new housing situation. The fund is setup to provide assistance on all levels for the affected women such as housing, daycare services, counseling, support groups, and even employment. The grant money can be used to pay rent, utilities, and other associated costs. See more details about this program here: http://www.mass.gov/hed/housing/ph-manage/mlhath.html
There are special assistance programs from the government that target veterans. The specific program is called the Veterans Affairs Supportive Housing Program. It offers much of what the HUD or USDA Rural Development programs do, but specifically for veterans. This means that the competition for these programs is much less and you are far more likely to qualify for the help because of it.
Besides the various government rental assistance programs listed above, there are a number of assistance programs offered by charities, religious organizations, private organizations, and nonprofits.
Religious Organizations (Churches): Look at your area’s churches for rental assistance. These are usually funded by community donations. It’s possible to find emergency shelter, help with basic utilities, free food, etc. The level of assistance varies depending, so you’ll have to look around your local area and make calls.
Nonprofit Short term and transitional housing programs: these are basically programs set up by nonprofits or government affiliated agencies that help evicted or homeless households relocate to temporary shelter or find low income housing. Besides helping with shelters and housing, these programs also focus on education and information to create self sufficiency.
Charities: nonprofit organizations that can provide services such as emergency shelter, social services, free food, and council.
- College Courts Apartments:If the single mother has two or three children and is attending school herself, another housing solution could be the College Courts Apartments available through Murray State University’s Housing Office, as long as she can afford the rental amount. The Courts’ two-bedroom facilities are fully furnished and reasonably priced, and would be ideal if travel issues would also be addressed. Information on how to acquire one of those apartments is available at http://www.murraystate.edu/secsv/hous/colcts.htm.
- YWCA:The Young Women’s Christian Association (YWCA) is another organization which provides rental housing assistance for single mothers. This shelter can be temporary or permanent, and is available to single mothers, but especially to those mothers leaving abusive situations. Information on how to access this assistance can be obtained at http://www.ywca.org/siteapps/custom/ywca/local.aspx?c=djISI6PIKpG&b=281414.
- Mercy Housing:Another non-profit organization called Mercy Housing, also offers affordable apartments for rent. They have offices in several states in the USA, from which information can be obtained. For example, the Chicago office in Illinois can be reached at https://www.mercyhousing.org/Document.Doc?id=27.
- Atlantic City Housing Authority Rental Assistance Program:A tenant-based assistance program, the Section 8 Housing Assistance Program, is offered by the federal government and is managed by the Atlantic City Housing Authority Rental Assistance Program. Eligibility into the program is determined by the household’s income, which must be at or below a specific amount, and media announcements are made inviting applications at certain times. More information can be obtained at http://www.rentassistance.us/li/atlantic-city-housing-authority-rental-assistance-program.
- The Salvation Army: the most comprehensive charity in the country, one that offers many services to women and single mothers such as food stuff, rental assistance, temporary shelters, counselling, job help, etc.
- Catholic Charities:a charity the focuses on helping one get a new start in life. Rent and housing assistance is offered to single moms (and children). The idea is to help mothers become self sustaining and education and structure is provided along that idea
If you are facing an eviction from your home, there are government and nonprofit assistance programs that will help you, either move to a new place (temporary shelter intern), help you fight the eviction, fight foreclosure for you, provide legal council and case management, or just information about what to do. These programs are not permanent solutions, but rather temporary stopgaps that help you get back on your feet. They all target low income individuals.
The government program is Eviction Prevention Program (EPP). The program is administered by various organizations. To apply, you should contact your local Community Action Agency.
If you are buying or building or reneventing a home, there may be some assistance options that can give you a bit of a boost. For many of you here, you won’t fall under this category, but it’s worth including for sake of completeness.
There is also the possibility that the single mother could use her housing choice voucher acquired from the Housing and Urban Development to purchase a modest home, with the public housing agency’s permission. In addition, there are homeownership vouchers issued by certain PHAs under the Homeownership Voucher Program, also for single mothers who would like to purchase their first home, but needs assistance with the monthly mortgage and other related expenses. A list of the PHAs who participate in this program is available from local PHA offices.
Low Income Home Energy Assistance Program (LIHEAP)
This includes a number of services, but one of the services is that you can apply for a grant that will help pay for weatherization of your home to make it more energy efficient. This is basically free money that will save you money on the installation / modification on your home and save you money on your energy bill over the long run. You can apply for this program at your local Community Action Agency
This program is suitable for single mothers who wish to purchase a house in Washington DC, and they can receive up to $44,000 worth of financial assistance for this purpose. The funds can be used for a down payment or closing costs, or both, and has a low-interest five-year deferred loan feature. District of Columbia residents are given application acceptance preference over non-residents, but non-residents are not barred from applying for assistance. To qualify for this housing solution, the single mother:
- has to head the household as a first-time purchaser,
- must be a low or middle income resident,
- must be going to live in the house that must be located in the District, and
- must have a good credit rating.
Further information on eligibility and procedure for applying can be obtained at http://www.gwul.org/programs/housing/hpap.
American Dream Downpayment Initiative (ADDI)
The ADDI provides funds to all US states, and targets low-income and minority households, which means that single mothers are included. An amount of $10,000 or six percent of the house’s purchase price, depending on which is greater, is provided for:
Rehabilitation includes reducing lead paint hazards and remedying other home health hazards, and this must be completed within one year of the purchase. Eligibility for funding involves not having ownership of a home during the 3-year period preceding the funding request, thereby rendering the single mother a first-time purchaser, and she must be purchasing the home for a single family. Other relevant information can be obtained from the program’s website, at
If you are looking at building a new house but need some assistance with this there are some programs to look at, location depending. Keep in mind there may be some GRANTS available for you to remodel/renovate your home to be more energy efficient. The government rewards this with grant money to help offset the costs.
Habitat for Humanity is an ecumenical Christian, non-profit housing organization which, along with the prospective owners, builds them decent, simple, and affordable houses. These are quite suitable for single mothers, who are required to help to provide volunteer labor, while other individuals and corporations donate cash and materials for building. The houses are sold to the families at 0% interest with no profit earned, just low mortgage payments that are used to build other houses. This housing solution is available in all 50 US states and in many countries around the world.
This organization builds quality homes that low-income single mothers living in New York City can afford. The program offered by Habitat for Humanity – New York, uses professionals and volunteers to supply healthy, well-built, green, homes that are energy efficient, where the owners:
- pay a 2% mortgage,
- contribute a 1% cash down payment, and
- receive property-tax abatements.
Qualifications for this kind of housing aid include:
- earning 50%-80% of the city’s median income,
- possession of a good credit score,
- being a first time homeowner, and
- the single mother must be willing to participate in the building of her own home.
The program in this state offers a non-discriminatory housing solution to low-income families. There is a Family Services Department which offers financial literacy training, and counseling services, among others, to families who have difficulty making mortgage payments. To qualify for this housing assistance, single mothers need to:
- complete 250-400 sweat equity hours, which are scheduled by the Department, and which earns an interest-free mortgage,
- work on the construction of their own and other families’ homes,
- volunteer in Habitat’s ReStore to help in the selling of construction materials, appliances, and other supplies, as well as
- participate in classroom-based financial literacy training regarding timely payments, etc.
Single mothers, partly because of their status, have a tendency to need various kinds of assistance. Housing assistance for single mothers is just one type of help needed, for various reasons, including inadequate educational qualifications and hence inadequate income. Fortunately, there are various solutions available which enable single mothers to rent, purchase, and even build new units, and these are available through funding from the federal government, as well as private organizations. You might also want to check out our financial assistance for single mothers article as well and also our Housing Assistance Resource page which has links to some housing assistance programs — there may be some related information you find useful.
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There are emergency shelters that will help you in your area.
1. Find your local Salvation army center and inquire
2. Contact your local Community Action Agency — they will have details on emergency and transient housing programs
3. It’s worth contacting religious organizations and asking if they offer women’s shelters or emergency shelters — some of them do, but you will have to contact them about it.
4. Check out our RENT Assistance page which gives a great deal of information about rental assistance programs which can help pay your rent for a short period (http://www.singlemoms.org/rent-assistance-guide)
We will be trying to create some sort of local bulletin board + donation center in the future for people to ask others for direct assistance to field requests like this.
Im single mom of 3 w no hlp from dad. I bought home n 2012 from habitat for humanity. I love program bt evry yr mortage goes up its wnt from $250/475 plus bills. I work 2 jobs plus go school and Im struggling to pay everything pls help.
Hi im a single mom two kids barely getting by in Nj i have an offer to move to Florida near my family that will help me i have a job opening if i can get there by april just i cant im barely getting by here im in major trouble in about to have a nervous break down or i stay in nj and struggle or come up with $2500 for moving expensises is there any help for me or just give up and continue here struggling ?
Hi. I am currently married and have 3 children. 1 is 24 yrs old and lives out of state, while the other 2 are only 4 and 5 yrs of age and live with me. I was in the process of working with an attorney to file for divorce when I found out baby #4 is on the way. I am 24 weeks into my pregnancy and want to get out of a terrible situatio before this baby is born. My 4 yr old son has high functioning autism, a slight speech disorder and life threatening food allergies. My 5 yr old daughter has experienced seizures and am now trying to raise money to get her into a specialist to have her diagnosed with Pandas/Pans (Pediatric autoimmune neurological Disorder). On top of it all, the children and I all have Lyme Disease, which has caused severe health problems.
All of the above to say, I have given up a career in property management 5 years ago where I made great money. I am going back to school online in August to complete my degree, but the financial aid will not be enough to help us with a rent or mortgage payment. My husband is an alcoholic and also is in need of an Asperger’s Syndrome diagnosis. I’ve spoken with several experts and they are sure this is what he is suffering from. He has been the sole support for us, however his drinking has become extreme and he refuses to get help. Because of the special needs of my children and baby 4 on the way, it places me in a terrible situation of not being able to work and leave my children with anyone. I also home school them, due to all of the many dietary restrictions and extreme behavioral issues, and therapies involved weekly. My plate is full. We need a fresh start and a new environment that is emotionally healthy for all of us. So sorry this is long. If there is any info you may have regarding assistance here in Alabama for someone like me, your response will be beyond welcomed.
Hi, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. It’s extreme to say the least. Check out our assistance page for alabama for some of the programs that my be availabel there: http://www.singlemoms.org/financial-assistance-in-alabama/
Contact your local Community Action Agency (CAA) — these are the go to sources for information about local help — both state, federal
We have some specific guides to Rent, Utility, Housing, and charity assistance pages (check the right sidebar) — you may find some of these programs listed apply to you.
As for housing assistance, perhaps you may qualify for HUD Section 8, especially if you have a couple dependents with health issues.
Going back to school is always a good idea, though of course the costs can be substantial. There are often grants given out by the school you are apply to based on your financial need that can help pay down some of the costs. You apply for scholarships as well (we are compiling a list of legit scholarships for moms for an article next week).
Also consider looking, if you have time, at doing article freelancing, which can bring in some extra money. We wrote a comprehensive article/s on this. It’s work on your part, but you can if you hustle and have extra time, bring in something while working at home.
Another option is to look at our guide to making passive income through websites. I’ve been writing some very comprehensive guides to this and will be for the next couple of months. Maybe it’s not something you want to do or that interest you, but give it a read and see wht you think
I am a 26 year old single mother of three ages 10,3,and 1 I have been on section 8 since nov. of 2014 I know you are required to notify the office if there are any changes in your income so when I got a temporary job at UPS I notified my local office which in return sent a letter to my realtor stating that I would have to pay the full amount of rent which is 775 as of 5/1/2015. When I went to my realtors office which is century 21 I paid what I normally pay a month with my voucher I had no knowledge of the change to my rent and I was not notified when I made my payment at the office that I was expected to pay the full amount. 4 days later I received a call from my realtor saying I was behind on my payments I knew that that had to be impossible because I had all my receipts I always paid on time. When I called the agent to find out what the issue was she let me know that they received a letter saying that I need to pay the whole amount and that I was past due 784$ that needed to be paid. I explained to her there must be a mistake I contacted my local section 8 office who told me that because I was working at UPS making 14 dollars an hour for 20 hours a week I did not qualify for the full benefit of the program any more. This to me is shocking that they feel a family of 4 can survive off of 500 dollars every two weeks. I have since than started a new job due to the fact that the UPS job was only temporary in which case my rent will be back to my original voucher amount. But since my realtor already took action against me I am now responsible to pay the full amount. I don’t know what to do society is making me feel so hopeless no matter what I do. They tell you to get a job and they will help you than you get a job than all of a sudden you make too much. I went down to my local social services office who was also unable to assist me with anything stating it is section 8s problem. I need some advice or at least just to know Im not the only one going threw this battle alone.
in Gordon Head area
A cry for help. I am a single mother of 2 children. One is 4 and one is 10. My home burnt down and I am homeless now. I was living with a man who promised to help me, but the intentions were less than honest and it go so bad I had to flee with my children. I work at Jacks full time but now I am homeless and I was staying in a hotel for 4 weeks until all my my savings ran out. Now I am completely living out of my car and trying to find friends to stay with whenever I can. I have no family to live with. Friends can help with overnight stays. But that’s about it. I want to give out my government phone number here. Please text me if you have any solutions whatsoever for me. I am in the most desperate times of my entire life right now. I need advice on what to do and I need it fast. I am employed but have no where to go. My cell number is 2563903773. I cannot receive calls on it just yet, but I can receive unlimited texts. If anyone can help me, I welcome any and all replies to the number I just gave. I do not have access to a computer or cell phone that gets me online. So please do not respond to this post thinking I will get it, cause I do not know when the next time I’ll be online again. Please help if you can. Thank you so much for your time. By the way, I am in Alabama and I will give you my name and more info about me if you text me. Thank you.
I’m a single mother that was living in section 8 housing for three years with my 2 boys 3 and 2 years old. I went through a violent relationship. I had to move. Very hard when they were raised there whole life there. Before I had to leave my home i called my family that lives in Utah to come get my babies so i knew they would be taken care of. This is the lowest point in my life. I’ve never had to ask for help. I’m in indiana trying to get back to my kids. My family will not help me with a place to stay. I’m trying to get a job lined up for when I get out there. Barely getting by. I just need some help on getting into a place so I can bring my kids home to me. I pray everyday things will come together. I’m a strong woman that just wants to pull my life back together for my family. Any help would be greatly appreciated or suggestions.
Hi Folks, I’m going to put together a forum here so you guys can post your requests for aid. It’s very difficult because everyone is in desperate need of help while there are less people who are able to offer that direct help. I’ll see what I can set up for you guys though
We need to get out of this family shelter. I am a single mom of a three year old autistic child. I am currently in a family shelter with eight other families. I am currently collecting welfare while I complete the YMCA Inc, training program. Which will help me land a job for an insurance company. Everyday is difficult, not only am I in recovery since 2012 , when I found out I was pregnant….but we had to leave his dad because he was violent. I have a restraining order currently but my son Liam is not doing well. I was able to get him from early intervention to the Boston Public School system so he was only without services for about a month. Early Intervention stops when the child turns three. But he is able to got to K) during the day but home is crazy. There is alot of children who have behavioral problems. My son never gets a break and with him being a non-verbal he cant tell me when the violent kids hurt him. So even though he wants to play I have to keep him in the room unless I am right next to him. I mean he has gotten bit, hit , kicked, his toys taken from him every time he leaves the room. It breaks my heart, not only is he without a dad, but he has no place where he can just unwind. I have written the mayor of Boston, in turn got a letter back with phone number to a woman. I called her and not only was she rude but she asked me where I have applied to and I told her all the low income apartment buildings and she said “you wont be able to afford any of those. Then she told me that I did not have a chance of getting a section 8 voucher, even with being on the waiting list for almost two years. The only thing she did was tear down any hopes I had of getting an apartment. My son’s autism will have no effect on my housing. We need our own place. My son would do better in a hotel room at this point. He is out of control right now because he is constantly in places with large numbers of kids and adults. IF THE MAYOR CAN’T HELP ME AND ALL MY APPLICATIONS ARE USELESS WHAT AM I DOING. All the research in the world isn’t helping. I am at the end of the line and my poor son is paying the price.
hi I’m a single mother of 6 I bought my home 3 years ago and I’ve been having one problem after another I was trying to find a grant that can help with some home repairs mainly renovating my kitchen it old leaky faucets and pipes I live in Michigan if there is anyone with info please let me know [email protected]
I need help I’m a single mother and just got a section 8 voucher. I can’t move into the new place because I need help paying deposit & first months rent …where can I get help here in San Antonio Texas
Ok im new to a forum of any kind so i hope i do this correctly please be patient with me….im a single mother of a 16 yr old autistic son. i have been trying for two months to get government assistance for housing, we are currently staying with a friend and our time is up tomarrow. The government wont help me except with food stamps and insurance. Low rent/ income based housing isnt low. all we have currently is my sons check due to i am physically unable to work and am fighting for my ssi. i am at my wits end. one state even told us to live in our van…and rooms for rent that i have found are over budget…please if anybody has any ideas please let me know…im getting desperate… you can reach me at [email protected]
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16 Cutest Famous Lesbian Couples of All Time
The day after my birthday in June of 2015, the U.S. Supreme Court brought joy to LGBT people across the nation when it legalized same-sex marriage. I remember watching the news that day in awe — so many people came out to cheer and wave rainbow flags.
Couples were kissing and crying and racing to the courthouse to tie the knot, some after spending decades in unrecognized relationships. It was a beautiful sight.
Pat and Lusinda Duffy kissed at a celebration party for the gay marriage ruling in 2015.
Many activists and advocates paved the way for that historic day, and it was a testament to their courage that the U.S. was able to make such progressive change. Oftentimes, lesbian celebrities — whether they intend to or not — play an important role in normalizing same-sex couples.
As more celebs come out and start families, the media is flooded with cute lesbian couples who show people that love is love, and it’s really as simple as that.
To celebrate being out and being in love, we thought we’d share with you a list of the top 16 famous lesbian couples whose romantic stories tug at the heartstrings.
Ellen and Portia are probably the most iconic lesbian couple.
Comedian Ellen DeGeneres has been a well-known advocate for LGBT issues ever since she came out in 1997 on the fourth season of her hit show “Ellen.”
At the time, it was a bold and lonely move to identify as a lesbian, but after almost two decades, Ellen has found acceptance and love in both her personal and professional life.
In 2008, after a four-year relationship, Ellen married Portia di Rossi, best-known for her role as Lindsay Funke in “Arrested Development.”
Whether they’re lounging together on the couch at home with their four dogs and three cats or joking around at a vegan cafe, this couple is just as cute as can be.
Actress Jodie Foster made a splash at the 2013 Golden Globes when she came out (though she refrained from using the words “gay” or “lesbian”) in her acceptance speech for the Cecil B. DeMille lifetime achievement award.
Jodie and Alex have eyes only for each other.
The very next year, she made headlines again by marrying actress and photographer Alexandra Hedison, most famous for playing Dylan Moreland in the Showtimes series “The L Word.”
Jodie and Alex are a private couple, preferring to snuggle indoors with their dog Ziggy than play the role of celebrity. Recently, Jodie has taken a step back from acting to focus on spending more time with her wife and kids.
Jodie may value her privacy, but she can’t hide the adoring way she looks at Alex, which is why these two lovebirds made #2 on our list.
Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon were a cute lesbian couple before it was cool. Back in 1950, the women met in San Francisco and found they had a lot in common: both were Berkeley grads, bother majored in journalism, and both were interested in political activism. They would go on to found the Daughters of Bilitis, the first social and political organization for lesbians.
Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon were married by the mayor of San Francisco — twice.
The couple became well-known advocates who fought for decades to legalize gay marriage. Although they moved in together and had lived in domestic bliss since 1953, it wasn’t until 2004 that they were able to marry in California — a marriage that was later voided by the California Supreme Court.
Happily, Del and Phyllis did eventually say vows that stuck on June 16, 2008, just a few months before Dorothy died at the age of 87.
“We really only had problems our first year together,” Phyllis recalled. “Del would leave her shoes in the middle of the room, and I’d throw them out the window.”
When Wanda Sykes came out at a Las Vegas Proposition 8 rally in 2008, she said she felt like a unicorn — a lesbian of color. Then in 2009 when she became a mom with her wife Alex Sykes, she found her place.
Proud parents Wanda and Alex Sykes are raising their twins with love, compassion, and laughter.
Wanda met Alex Niedbalski on Fire Island, New York. As they rode the ferry to the island, Wanda caught sight of the woman she would marry. “It was just fate, to be honest with you,” she said of that moment.
Today, they’re happily married and raising twins, Lucas Claude and Olivia Lou. “Alex is taking care of everything that goes in, and I handle everything that comes out,” Wanda joked. Though their schedules are tight, this cute lesbian couple always carves out time to spend together.
“I truly love my family, and it’s the best situation I’ve ever been in,” Wanda said.
“Orange is the the New Black” has more than few cute lesbian couples on screen, but the show actually spawned a real-life, honest-to-God, leaving-my-husband-for-you lesbian relationship between Lauren Morelli (a writer for the show) and Samira Wiley (the actress who plays Poussey Washington).
Writing for “Orange is the New Black” led Lauren Morelli to realize she was gay and meet her girlfriend.
Lauren’s journey to discover her sexuality, she said, is tied closely to her work writing for the show. In May 2014, she finally accepted who she truly was, and although it was a difficult thing to admit, she seems pretty blissfully happy now in Samira’s arms.
At age 31, Lauren is now able to live openly and authentically with her partner as they walk hand-in-hand on the beach or attend awards shows decked out in elegant gowns.
“I claimed my own self-worth,” Lauren said. “I’m happy in a way I don’t think I’ve ever been.”
Twenty-eight-year-old actress Ellen Page practically glows when she talks about her girlfriend Samantha Thomas, a surfer and artist.
All smiles, Ellen Page and Samantha Thomas are a chill young couple.
This dynamic pair enjoys hockey, surfing, and sharing outdoor adventures. Ellen said what’s great about their relationship is the support for each other’s booming careers.
Samantha happily attends movie premieres while Ellen eagerly goes to her girlfriend’s art gallery installations. It doesn’t matter if they’re walking their dog around the neighborhood or strolling through the streets of Rome, Ellen and Samantha seem to always be holding hands.
“Walking down the red carpet holding my girlfriend’s hand is pretty special,” Ellen said. “It’s pretty awesome.”
In 2013, comedian Tig Notaro fell for her straight friend Stephanie Allynne while shooting a Netflix documentary called “Tig,” and in a surprising turn of events, Stephanie returned her affection. It all unfolded gradually on camera as a close friendship became something more.
Actress and writer Stephanie Allynne calls her marriage to Tig “the greatest life ever.”
“I was falling in love with her,” Stephanie recalled, “and I didn’t know how to identify it because I thought I was straight.”
The pair felt comfortable teasing each other from the get-go, never taking offense to any joke. Stephanie said her “aha” moment came when Tig was feeling down and Stephanie automatically reached for her shoulders to comfort her. She said it was an electric moment the likes of which she hadn’t felt before.
In October 2015, the couple got married, and in July 2016 they brought home newborn twin boys, Max and Finn. “Once you follow your heart, it’s all of a sudden so easy,” Stephanie said of her journey into Tig’s arms. “I look back on that time and I’m like ‘Oh, my gosh, why was that so difficult to say yes to, like, the greatest life ever?'”
You know it’s love when you can’t get married, aren’t accepted by society, but stay together anyway. That’s the story of Barbara Jordan and Nancy Earl who met in the ’60s and lived as domestic partners for over 30 years.
Because Rep Jordan and Nancy Earl weren’t openly a couple, there aren’t many pictures of them together.
Barbara Jordan was the first black female to be elected to the U.S. House of Representatives, and President Bill Clinton even expressed a wish to nominate her to the Supreme Court if not for her failing health.
Behind this powerful woman was Nancy Earl, an educational psychologist. Nancy acted as an occasional speechwriter for Barbara, offering her help and care throughout their lives. She saved Barbara from drowning in their backyard pool.
As her life partner, Nancy was always by Barbara’s side — even though they were never “out” as a couple. Despite controversy, despite health complications, Nancy stayed by her true love until Barbara’s death in January 1996.
Actress Sara Gilbert is best-known as Darlene Conner from the ABC sitcom “Roseanne,” but now she takes on her most important role as she and singer-songwriter Linda Perry start a family all their own. After getting married in 2014, Sara gave birth to their son, Rhodes Emilio Gilbert Perry, the very next year.
Actress Sara Gilbert has been in a relationship with Linda Perry since 2011.
It’s clear that these new mothers absolutely adore their baby boy. Linda even incorporated the tyke’s coos, giggles, and cries into an album called “Deer Sounds.” This family album is kid-friendly, but it also has a sweet message for parents about watching their little ones grow up.
“He wrote his own piano concerto,” Sara said laughingly on “Entertainment Tonight,” describing her son banging on the keys with his feet and hands.
“He’s going to be the youngest Grammy winner,” Linda added with a smile. How adorable is that?
In 1999, Rachel Maddow was a doctoral student working odd jobs when she met the love of her life. Put in contact through mutual friends, Susan Mikula hired her to do lawn work on her two acres of land. “It was all very ‘Desperate Housewives,'” Rachel joked.
Rachel Maddow and her long-time partner, Susan Mikula, like to banter and garden together.
From their first date at an NRA Ladies Day on the Range Event to their current weekend commute to a farmhouse in Massachusetts, Rachel and Susan enjoy doing their own thing (with black lab Poppy never far behind).
The couple seems to make a habit of going against the grain. Reportedly, these women aren’t in any rush to get married anytime soon — they’ve been together for decades and feel secure right where they’re at.
“I feel that gay people not being able to get married for generations, forever, meant that we came up with alternative ways of recognizing relationships,” Rachel reflected.
Dani Shay and Ali Stroker met as contenders in the “Glee Project,” a reality competition for singers hoping for their big break. Over the course of five days of callbacks, before Ali was shockingly sent home, the couple fell head over heels in love.
Dani and Ali, nicknamed “Danali,” don’t care about labels or fanfare. They just care about each other. Dani said her bond with Ali defies convention or assumption. “I never expected I’d be with someone in a wheelchair,” she said, “but when I met her, it was immediate. I guess the point I’m trying to make is the body doesn’t matter. It goes beyond that.”
In tribute to her newfound love, Dani composed her first single “One” about their whirlwind love affair, and Ali made a guest appearance in the music video to announce their coupledom.
“Like I say in the song,” Dani said, “within the first five days, it grew from immediate connection and friendship, laughing hysterically together to talking deeply and understanding each other in ways that felt like — it literally felt like meeting someone you’d known for so long.”
In 2014, “Good Morning America” anchor co-host Robin Roberts tied the knot with longtime girlfriend Amber Laign, a massage therapist.
Robin Roberts met Amber Laign eleven years ago, and they’re still making each other laugh to this day.
On their first date in 2005 (a blind date set up by mutual friends), Amber had no idea who Robin was, and that suited them both just fine. Laid-back and upbeat, this couple enjoys dancing barefoot on the beach and staying well out of the limelight.
Although they show up on the red carpet hand in hand, Robin says that Amber doesn’t like the spotlight and prefers to support her from the background. In sickness and in health, these two stay side by side.
“There is no fuss with us,” Robin gushed. “We’re so happy. We’ve been happily in a relationship for 10 years and are looking forward to the next 10.”
When Jane Wagner and Lily Tomlin met in March 1971, it was a perfect match: a writer and an actress putting their heads together on a comedy album. As they worked together, their compatibility and chemistry were undeniable.
Lily (76) and Jane (81) have been a couple since they were in their 30s.
Jane would go on to write multiple screenplays that starred her muse and great love.
After 42 glorious years of committed partnership, Jane and Lily got married in a private ceremony on December 31, 2013. “You don’t really need to get married,” said Lily, now age 76, “but marriage is awfully nice.” Theirs is a patient and wry love, full of collaboration and laughter. The duo complement each other’s talents in a really special way.
“We share similar feelings about people and about the world,” Lily said to People Magazine in 1988. “She’s able to verbalize it, and I’m able to physicalize it.”
So we’ve seen cute actor couples, singer couples, and political activist couples, and now I give you the most adorable sporty lesbian couple: Seimone Augustus and Michelle LaTaya Varner. These chicks are a fearsome and fun duo. In her career as a professional basketball player, Seimone has won a gold medal in the Olympics and WNBA championship, but her proudest achievement is winning the heart of Michelle, a fellow basketball star.
Seimone Augustus and Michelle LaTaya Varner are both professional basketball players.
“When you find happiness outside of basketball,” Seimone said, “when your personal life is intact, of course, your career is going to fall into place, and it has been like that for me.”
In 2012, Seimone proposed to her girlfriend, and the pair immediately began planning a lively event in Hawaii with leis, hula performances, and red velvet cake. The setting of their wedding was a nod to Michelle’s mother who is Native American and Hawaiian.
These women are trailblazers as openly lesbian athletes, breaking down barriers with playful affection.
You might know Jenny Shimizu as that chick who dated Angelina Jolie in the ’90s, but she’s since moved on to model Michelle Violy Harper. This stylish duo turns heads everywhere they go.
As socialites and models, Jenny and Michelle bond over a shared passion for fashion.
After meeting at a party in 2012, the good-looking couple fell for one another. Jenny and Michelle enjoy dressing up in matching and flamboyant outfits and then making eyes at the cameras, as if to say, “we know exactly how good we look together.”
In August 2014, Michelle and Jenny donned their best looks yet (the former in a full-skirted gown and the latter in a dapper tux) to profess their love and say their wedding vows. Angelina was invited, but she respectfully declined to attend the happy event. Jenny now gets to enjoy what she describes as a “hetero luxury” — marriage.
“Yes, I’d marry for real,” she said back then, “but only if I find the person I want to share the rest of my life with. It’s a commitment to be taken very seriously.”
Musician and TV writer Melissa Etheridge was divorced from her husband and in need of help raising her four kids, so she turned to her best friend of 10 years, Linda Wallem.
“We were best friends,” Melissa said. “This is the first time I’ve ever done it that way.”
She realized her love for her friend while running around the house making lunches and looking for sippy cups. She looked in Linda’s eyes and realized, “We were like a married couple without the benefits, so why not have the benefits?” After dating for five years, the couple got married at the foot of the Santa Ynez Mountain range in California. Melissa serenaded Linda with a new song written especially for the occasion: “Who Are You Waiting For.”
“It’s the most supportive, healthy relationship I’ve ever been in,” she said, “so I’m not surprised that my music is reflecting that.”
As we enter a new age of tolerance in the wake of the Supreme Court rulings, it’s truly wonderful to see so many happy couples getting to live the lives they want. It’s not just lawmakers, but people like these celebrities who are to thank for gay marriage being legalized across the country.
These 16 cutest lesbian couples of all time have made a unique impact on society by being open and loving in the public spotlight.
Whether they’re actors, models, politicians, or singers, lesbian celeb couples make a push toward acceptance and pave the way for others to tell their own personal love stories. With panache, grace, and pride, these couples show the rainbow of beautiful forms that love can take.
Portia Di Rossi said it best in her quote: “I really honestly think that anybody who is openly gay and visible is powerful. It doesn’t matter what you do — you are impacting people.”
Amber Brooks is a Contributing Editor at DatingAdvice.com. When she was growing up, her family teased her for being "boy crazy," but she preferred to think of herself as a budding dating expert. As an English major in college, Amber honed her communication skills to write clearly, knowledgeably, and passionately about topics that interest her. Now with a background in writing, Amber brings her tireless wit and relatable experiences to DatingAdvice.com.
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